Well, I'm in this new relationship that has added excitement, passion, infactuation, and happiness. For the first time in my life I've found a real man that isn't a dead beat loser! But to every upside there is a downside! He lives in his own house with a morgage (I'm usually a loser magnet to little boys who have no responsibility, no job, no ambition, you get the ides) currently he has 3 roommates (just helping out some friends) and I have my own little mobile home that I rent that houses me and two of my daughters. So when he has his days off work, the girls and I pack overnight bags and stay over at his house. The guys (his roommates) get annoyed and frustrated because my 4 year old that is an early riser, wakes them up when they'd rather be sleeping in! I ask him to stay over at my house to save me the trouble of packing up bags and my little family to drive across town, but he says my bed is uncomfortable to sleep on. My thoughts on this is that I make sacrifices once to twice a week to be able get that family feeling, he understands I have children and he has made the bold move of being a daddy to my 4 year old cuz her father is a poor example and a drug addict. he also understands that in this relationship with me, my kids are included (it's not just the two of us, it's all of us). so I figure he should be able to make a sacrifice (which is alot less than mine) to stay with me at least once a week. I told him last night that I have a family at home and although my oldest daughter is 14 and is fully capable of caring for herself and her sister if I were to stay over by myself, it's not fair to my kids. I love him, but I just can't keep doing this, it's wearing my out cuz I not only have to pack clothes, everyday hygiene neccessities, but also my laptop and backpack cuz I'm a full time college student. I have homework, research, studies, etc.! So to me, this is a huge sacrifice I have to make each week. We do however spend time together almost everyday unless I'm swamped with homework. I just go home every night. the history on our relationship is quite unique!
We first met almost ten years ago and we had a one night stand with each other (but we were friends before and after that). at that time in our lives, we were both a bit insecure and afraid to voice our attractions to each other. Eventually we went our separate ways, he was deployed, but they found he had cancer and so in desperation and fear he married his high school sweetheart. Meanwhile, I was in an abusive relationship and had two more children. ( I have four daughters, one lives with her father in Fargo ND and one was adopted). Even through his marriage and my abusive relationship, I would see him around town and at my best friends house and my heart would still skip a beat and I found myself wondering, what if. Eventually, my abusive relationship ended and his marriage was on the rocks. I found myself in another unhealthy relationship where I was supporting this loser, working my ass off, going to school, taking care of things at home, while he played video games, smoked marijuanna, and got drunk every single day. I was finally fed up and kicked him out and started hanging out with my , friend and her husband again. Of course, he was still hanging out at their house, too, only this time he was single! And that's how it started! we exchanged numbers and have been inseparable ever since! Now it just seems that I'm not sure where he stands or where he wants this relationship to lead, especially since I have kids and he does not.
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